Guidepost 9 — Cultivating Meaningful Work: Letting Go of Self-Doubt and ‘Supposed to’

Since becoming a parent, and consciously noticing my triggers, I have come to realise the importance of acceptance without expectation. This is what pure unconditional love is for my children—a love that brings peace and joy, never pain or worry. It's our duty as parents to create an environment where our child can lean into their gifts and talents without concern for how it reflects on us. If they lean towards something we're also gifted in, we should let them explore it through their own genius, rather than tainting the experience with our perspective. When they trust they can explore their gifts and talents from their inner selves, they begin building the confidence needed to let go of societal expectations and overcome self-doubt.

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Guidepost 8 — Cultivating Calm and Stillness: Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle

We all have different ways to find calm and stillness. I recommend starting by asking yourself, "What do I enjoy?" Extract something healthy from that enjoyment and see how it affects your emotions, especially when feeling reactive. Some people choose to stay busy, but this doesn't necessarily help manage anxiety; it just pushes it aside. As we now know, the body keeps score. Anxiety doesn't disappear; it compounds and eventually catches up with us. It's better to find a way to manage it so that it can coexist with us as we lead as normal a life as possible.

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